Is Your Ex Playing You For A Fool?

During the moments that you really want to get back with your ex, you may fall prey to scheming.  I know it hurts to think about it and you really just can’t imagine your ex doing this, but it’s true that sometimes your ex is just playing you for a fool and getting your hopes up to get back at you for one reason or another.

Remember your instincts? I know that when you began walking down the road of winning your ex back, you may have chucked those out the window but you need them back right now. Listen to what your gut is telling you because more often than not, your gut is right. There are signs that you should keep an eye out for too especially the one moment your ex is pulling the hot and cold routine.

Your ex could have a lot of reasons for leading you on.  Maybe he or she needs some semblance of the emotional support you used to provide before the break up happened.  Or maybe, they just need someone to be with physically.  No matter what the reason, your ex is setting you up for a world of hurt. 

So what are the reasons that may exist for your ex to lead you on?

Your ex has made you Plan B.  If he or she can’t find emotional or sexual comfort in another person, you’re there as a back-up. 

There is the possibility that your ex doesn’t know why he or is doing this.  Maybe your ex is hoping to keep a friendship going, not thinking that the way he or she is acting is actually hurting you more than keeping you both friends.

Your ex could be really confused right now and is debating whether or not he or she really does want to give the relationship a second chance.

Whichever of the three cases yours is, don’t allow yourself to be pulled along for the ride.  Step up and defend your heart by knowing when enough is enough and call things off. You might want to take all things into consideration and consider picking apart your ex’s actions to determine whether or not your strings are being pulled. Examine the way they’re acting and figure out if it’s all an act or if your ex really wants you back too.

If you’re tired of playing guessing games and want to get straight to the point, it would be a good idea to sit your ex down and ask them straight up what he or she really wants, make it clear that you want the real reason for his or her actions and that you need a solid answer so that you can get on with your life. What they tell you will give you a good indication of what’s really going on.

Here’s what you need to know:

• If you ex is pulling your leg, he or she will…
 
…pull out all the stops to make sure that they convince you that his/her actions are just because they can’t stop themselves.  Your ex wants you to believe that no matter what, they can’t stop what they’re feeling and are so confused that it’s making them indecisive. In short, your ex is blowing off hot air up your butt. 

Your ex is using flattery as a tool to win you over and then when it seems you’ve given in, they return to toying with your emotions.  Don’t fall prey to a knock-out smile or puppy dog eyes because as they tell you that they’re ‘confused’, the bigger their opportunities are to mess around with you. Be clear that you want a decision and that you want it now while drawing a line that can’t be crossed.

• If your ex is oblivious to the fact that he or she is leading you on…
 
…you’re going to get a sincere apology along with a look of surprise.  It won’t take long for your ex to start explaining their behavior and will be sure to let you know exactly how he or she really feels about you.  Your ex will also want to move on as quickly as you do and will make sure that you get the closure you need. Though it’s great that you’re getting honesty, guard you heart.  Yeah, you’re getting the truth, but the truth may not what you want it to be.

• If your ex is genuine and does want you back…
 
…your ex is going to take a step in the right direction.  You want your ex back and your ex feels the same way so they’re going to make that clear and you can both start fixing things.  If you aren’t sure about how genuine your ex is, look for some confusion that isn’t being staged.  Your ex will be non-committal with the things that they’re saying and won’t be telling you flat out that there’s still hope.  When you’re picking up on the confusion, give your ex some space and ask if there’s a possibility that you can both meet up again at a later time. It should give your ex enough time to gather their feelings and figure out what they really want.’

What’s important here is that you’re ready for anything.  Don’t allow yourself to be played with and don’t misinterpret signs because it could rob you of an opportunity to move on or even get back together with your ex.  Put yourself first this time and demand an answer that will set things straight.  If you don’t have the courage do that just yet, at least set some boundaries that cannot be crossed. 

Are you frustrated in your attempt to get your ex back?

• Do you find that getting back your ex is an uphill task that last forever?
• Do you feel like your situation is impossible or reached a point of no return?
• Do you feel lost and cannot go on because of a breakup?
• Do you constantly check your email and voice mail to see if he/she called
• Are you feeling massively depressed
  
  If your answer to the above questions are filled with yesses, then I strongly recommend that you check out The Ex Recovery System.

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